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Wealth and Poverty in the Family

Many wealthy families as well as those struggling financially are turning to family therapy for help, and the importance of the family structure is now well documented in family business as well as the more invisible loyalties we have to wealth and poverty of our parents and our grandparents. One of the things I work […]

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Nature as Teacher

The other day I asked an elder in my community: why is it that some people are so perceptive to the “knowing field” and others, no matter how much training in therapeutic and people skills still can’t see? It seems that the only lens is through theories that they have learned, or applying formulas. Those […]

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Freedom and Responsibility

Freedom is a word that has been on everybody’s lips in South Africa for decades. I often ask myself the question: what does “freedom” really mean? Freedom from prisons? Freedom from the oppressor? Freedom from the past? Outer freedom? And what about inner freedom? We are seeing how people are battling to free themselves from […]

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Is it helpful?

Through observing, experiencing and facilitating various healing modalities, particularly Family Constellations, I have observed that seemingly amazing interventions have not helped the client at all, and quite simple healing movements have had life-changing and profound effects. My therapeutic approach is guided by internally checking in with myself: is this helpful? Does it strengthen the client? […]

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Learning to Observe

Learning to see things as they are is a skill that can be learnt and that can bring huge healing to individuals and families. Learning to see things “as they are” so that one can “acknowledge what is” is an essential skill for being able to meet each moment that unfolds anew. It allows us […]

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Life dished one up for us.

Sometimes life deals harder lessons than the regular daily menu. Our baby girl has been in i.c.u. for 3 months and come close to losing her life. The lesson feels like a Sunday roast, with gravy and roast potatoes. Let me explain this analogy. Ever feel like you have too much on your plate? ’Bitten […]

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the art of presence

I’ve been wondering what our relationships, our families and the world would be like if we lived our lives truly present in the current moment.  Martial artists and spiritual sages have been teaching the concept of “presence” as the path to enlightenment for thousands of years. When we experience “presence” we experience clarity, relaxation and […]

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living life towards beauty

Today I find myself in awe of African cosmology, and how my exploration of it is weaving all the loose threads of understanding together that I have accumulated over many years of study and life experience in various fields. The red thread that runs through it all, has to do with “beauty”. “Beauty” could be […]

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fire the inner-bully

I had an interesting conversation this weekend: The question that arose was: who is leading your inner team? You know those voices going on in your head – that one about needing to be successful at work (“ambition”); the perfect parent (“don’t be like dad/mom”) the voice that wants another cigarette or drink (“give-me-more”); the […]

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don’t say the “V” word

I’m wondering about vulnerability, and what it means to make oneself vulnerable in our reality today. As a house guest I always imagine vulnerability would point out all the faults, make the house look weak and flawed, would leave the window unlatched at night and forget to put on the alarm. He/she would be happy […]

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